March 14, 2017 at 7:23 am #17482
Let us know what we can do to help Dora. It happens to us all at times.
Just a few things that may or may not help.
Delegate – as your team to help you by clearing the most urgent/easiest tasks. You may feel that it’s your fault that things have reached this point, but it impacts on everyone and so the sooner it is sorted the better for them as well. You’ll probably find that they are happy to help, worried about you and may not have expected you to do so much on your own. I’m really bad at using my admin for expenses/travel booking etc and yet that’s what she’s paid to do. I’ve just been assigned a new admin, so I need to make sure I use her properly.
Tidy your office – I need to do this while I’m off work. I know I can’t be productive while the office is a mess, and I usually find that sorting through the detritus clears a lot of the minor tasks that have been weighing on my mind as well as giving my head a chance to clear. It’s certainly more productive than staring and a screen.
Keep running – maybe not as much as when you were training, but don’t drop it because you feel you should spend all your time sorting out the work stuff. You need that time for yourself a couple of times a week. Fresh air and exercise is good for your mental health, helps with decision-making and productivity, and will also maintain your physical health so keep going.
And remember, we’re all here for you to talk to if you need us.March 14, 2017 at 1:53 pm #17488
So tough day of reckoning, went to tell deputy and chair of govs I’m really not well & not coping. Been sent home with instructions to see the doctor and come back only when I am ready. Sat on sofa feeling very weird now. Guess a few days sleep and decent eating might help for a start.March 14, 2017 at 8:00 pm #17492
Well done for taking the first step. Sleep and food will certainly help. And the odd run will help too.March 15, 2017 at 8:40 pm #17496
Signed off work for a month, referral to counselling and anti-depressants from doctor. She was lovely but only about 12 years old!
Have got flowers, cakes, pressies and cards from work.March 15, 2017 at 8:58 pm #17497
Glad you’ve got some help and that work are being so supportive.
Maybe spend some time in the garden. I find being outside helps when things get tough (which is why my office is still a mess…)March 16, 2017 at 1:30 pm #17502
Advice from left, right and centre is to forget about school and focus on me. So far this is about as easy as becoming an Olympic discus thrower at my age. Twiddling my thumbs far too much so far and still on only 5 hours sleep most nights – sighMarch 16, 2017 at 2:55 pm #17503
You need to find things to do to keep your mind off it and stop worrying about not sleeping.
Are you still running? That may help.
Gardening? Housework? Reading trash? Reading stuff you’ve been meaning to read for years… Cooking?
Keep busy to begin with, and if you can’t sleep, get up and do something or read. Don’t lie there thinking about not being able to sleep.March 16, 2017 at 3:22 pm #17504
Some great ideas thanks Victoria. Tomorrow is a cleaning day as I’m on my own so I can put loud music on and go through one room at a time cleaning and dancing. Got lots of books and lots of crafty projects to do and the gardens are dreadful! The teen has suggested I paint the whole house lolMarch 16, 2017 at 6:54 pm #17506
Music is a good idea too. Find things that are energising and uplifting and that you can sing along to. Helps release endorphins.March 17, 2017 at 12:28 pm #17509
I’d second the gardening, it has really helped me.
When I had work related insomnia I tried to use the time to think positively – so planning the garden – which helped to block out the stress driven work inner dialogue.March 20, 2017 at 4:15 am #17523
Still not cracked the whole eating, relaxing, sleeping thing and although I’m less weepy it’s still there lurking. Since I was wide awake I wrote down all the things I am feeling and boy is it a long and very muddled list. Got counselling initial referral tomorrow so hopefully going to get something sorted from there but it’s going to take time.March 20, 2017 at 5:19 pm #17525
I’ve just been signed off for another couple of weeks Dora (surgery appears to have caused back problems, so I can’t sit or move or lie down or sleep…) Want to go on holiday somewhere hot? :)March 20, 2017 at 9:20 pm #17527
I would but need to be here for the kids, especially cos hubby does rolling shifts. Feel a bit calmer today but the lack of decent sleep is a killer.March 21, 2017 at 7:43 am #17528
Pity… although I suspect both our employers would be a bit put out by us disappearing off on holiday while on sick leave!
International sleep day (or something like that) was last week, so there should be lots in the press about sleep. My mother sent me some stuff from last saturday’s paper (I don’t sleep – although I don’t think I’m as bad as hex). As you’re not working at the moment, try to let yourself have an afternoon nap. I’ve been very bad at this, but I know it helps. At the moment I’m going to bed around 9ish as I’m shattered and then waking up around 3.30/4. I need to try to shift it all by an hour or so – and maybe try to increase it.
Builder here today, so won’t get a nap in today. Cleaner tomorrow, so that won’t work either…March 21, 2017 at 1:00 pm #17530
Had a two hour nap after dropping off the kids this morning, was soooo good. First time I’ve felt rested in days.
Doing Elaine’s classic 15 minutes of things today, with lots of resting in between the 15 minutes. Realising how wound up my body and mind have been recently and that it’s going to take time to reboot the systems to normal.
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